Dealing with the Loss of a Loved One Around the Holidays
The holidays are special days to spend with friends and family, so after the loss of a loved one, you might find yourself overwhelmed with memories on those days. Not just on the big holidays like Christmas and Thanksgiving, but on Valentine’s Day, Independence Day, your loved one’s birthday or any other holiday that’s filled with special traditions and memories.
We’re sharing a few tips on getting through the holidays while dealing with loss in hopes that you can find some peace and comfort.
Decide Which Traditions You Want to Keep or Change
Whether it’s setting up the Christmas tree while watching Christmas movies, or exchanging cards on Valentine’s Day, holiday traditions are often special things you shared with your loved one that may be hard to carry on now that they’re gone.
Remember, just because it’s something you’ve always done doesn’t mean you have to continue if it causes you too much pain. But carrying on some traditions can be a special way to honor your loved one and keep their legacy alive. But it’s ultimately up to you what you do and not do to celebrate the holidays.
Decide Where You Want to Spend the Holidays
If you’ve always hosted a holiday gathering and you’re just not feeling up for it, let your family or friends know! No one will expect you to host while going through such a difficult time. Or if you’ve always gone to the same place with your loved one and that will be too hard, consider asking your family if someone else would be up for hosting this year. This ties in with one of our later tips about being honest about you need.
Don’t Be Afraid to Share Memories
When you’re at a family function for a holiday after losing a loved one, it may feel like you’re not allowed to bring up that person in fear that you or someone else at the function will get upset. But just remember—it’s okay to show your emotions! It’s okay to share memories! In fact, talking about your loved one openly can help you get to a better place in your grieving process.
You could even consider making it a new family tradition to all share your favorite memory of your loved one. That’s a great way to honor that person and keep their memory alive.
Be Honest About What You Need
During the grieving process, some days are going to be harder than other, and that’s okay! A holiday may be one of those harder days when all you want to do is be alone. It’s normal to feel pressured to do something special for the holidays, but you should be honest with those around you about what you need to get through.
See a Grief Counselor
If you haven’t already, the holidays may be a good time to talk to someone. Sometimes the best way to grieve is to get out your thoughts and emotions, and it can be beneficial to talk to a professional rather than a friend or family member who is more involved in the situation.
Heritage Cremation Society is here for you in your time of need. Contact us today and we’d be happy to answer any questions you may have.